A man was hurrying back to his office having been delayed at a lunch meeting. As he moved along the mall, his eyes were drawn to another man window shopping outside a major department store. For a moment he was completely distracted as the man seemed so familiar.

That afternoon, describing his experience to a colleague, he said: “There was something so striking about this person but I couldn’t figure it out. Then it occurred to me. This guy was my exact double.”

Astounded, his colleague asked, “What do you mean exact double?” The man replied, “He looked exactly like me. He was dressed differently but, in every other way we were the same.” “That’s incredible,” his colleague replied, “Did you ask him who he was and where he was from?”

 “You know I didn’t,” the man said, “I just didn’t like the look of him!”

In humor we often find truth. That is never more evident than at this time of year when the “New Year’s Resolution” is on many minds. Although I am obviously fully supportive of learning and growth, my experience is that the quest to be better is often motivated by feelings of inadequacy or the belief that one more accomplishment will make us a more worthy human being.

My partner, Cheryl, loves to say that we are all perfectly imperfect. It is that thought I encourage you to reflect upon as you consider your New Year’s resolutions. Set aside the images in the media of the perfect body, the perfect family, the perfect partner, or the perfect job. Let go of any comparison that leaves you feeling deficient in your career or life.

Focus instead on all that is valuable about you. What friend, cause or colleague benefited from your assistance, kindness, compassion in 2015? To whom did you give encouragement, listen to, provide support, let know how valuable they were? How did you bring and add value to your organization? This is not an exercise in pumping up your ego, it is about realizing how every positive action makes the world a better place. Take credit for your contribution.

Enter 2016 with understanding that the cliché - there is no-one exactly like you – happens to be the truth. You are a combination of the natural gifts with which you were born, the knowledge you have acquired, and the skills you have developed. You have a personality that has evolved and an intellect that is growing and gaining wisdom every day. You may be perfectly imperfect, but you are also, unquestionably, a unique and miraculous member of the human family.

Accepting and building upon that reality is the most important New Year’s resolution you will ever make!